How Thinking Gets You into Trouble

Silence is the Solution

I was talking with a young man this week. He was feeling depressed due to some changes taking place in his life. He kept playing future scenarios over and over in his mind. This was making him feel anxious, fearful, and lonely. And amazingly, not one thing he was thinking was actually true. His thoughts were creating havoc in his life. But, he didn’t know how to live any other way.

Streaming Thoughts Are Trouble

I want you to live a different way. Thoughts are necessary but they don’t have to control you. I invite you to learn to live from your heart. But to do so, you need to learn a little how the mind works. Let’s go to our guide, Dr. Meletios Webber for help.

The stream of thoughts is negative because the mind dwells in a land of unrelenting desire and boundless fear, and it attempts to influence us to experience these two areas as our rightful home…Some people actually hear an almost constant stream of conversation going on in their heads…encouraging them to want and need, to be afraid, to feel alienated and alone.

This is what was happening to this young man. Does this sound familiar to you? Is this place of need and fear where you live? Do you experience life as “unrelenting desire” or “boundless fear?” If so, learn silence.

Silence is the Solution 

It is not until we learn to quiet our thoughts that there is even the possibility of learning to use our hearts. Apart from anything else, the mind uses noise constantly to reassure itself of its own existence. The language of the heart, on the other hand, is silence. Here I am not referring to an empty silence, one that is simply waiting for something to happen. Rather I refer to the overflowing silence, the silence that is the heart’s means of communication, a full and profound experience of being, and a deep awareness of God.

Do your thoughts control you? Do they create the noise, desire, and fear you so want to defeat? Then, learning the language of silence is the solution. Because God dwells in silence. And silence is found in the heart not the thoughts.

How are your thoughts controlling you? Do they bring up “stuff” from the past? Do they paint scenarios about the future? Both thought processes evoke fear and desire. You can learn to live differently.

Share your comments about this post below. Do you have examples about your thoughts creating fear and wrong desires?

Dr. K

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5 thoughts on “How Thinking Gets You into Trouble

  1. I find that my fears are, and have been, overwhelming me for some time and am looking for a solution to this. So your thoughts come at an opportune time. Can you explain in a little more detail the quote by Dr. Melitios Weber, “Here I am not referring to an empty silence, one that is simply waiting for something to happen. Rather I refer to the overflowing silence, the silence that is the heart’s means of communication, a full and profound experience of being, and a deep awareness of God.” What does this practically speaking look like? Does this simply mean being silent in His presence and allowing His presence to influence and overwhelm me instead of my thoughts? And is learning to live in silence an all day experience or is it setting aside certain times in solitude, or both, or something different? Thank you for your thoughts.

    • Hi Heather. Thank you so much for your comments and questions. The invitation is to enter the Mystery of God which is done primarily from the heart. Our thoughts (even thoughts about God) want to control us. So, what it looks like initially is a struggle of control between heart and thoughts. They are not in synch. It takes much time to learn to quiet the thoughts and let the heart blossom. This takes place in prayer/communion with God. The best way to train yourself to quiet the thoughts and let the heart blossom is in solitude – a time and place set aside each day where you meet with God. As you do, you begin to struggle to be quiet. When thoughts try to take over pray: “Lord, have mercy.” If the thought is important, write it down and forget it. If it is not, dismiss it. Don’t chase the rabbit thoughts – even good ones. Those are distractions. Over the months and years of doing this, you will find that is has an impact on how you live your day. You will find a greater ability to live in the here and now throughout the day. It is powerful! Yet, at the beginning it is more a struggle than anything. Yet, it is a wonderful struggle since you are knowing God in new ways. Thanks for engaging! My prayers are with you. Keith

  2. I love the post today; however, I think it would be good to give a bit more of an explanation on HOW to sit in silence. I’m betting that the majority of people reading this have no idea exactly what you mean or exactly how to sit in silence without our thoughts darting here and there…I am interested in a bit more direction. Just a thought…

    • Hi Rhonda. See my response to Heather in the comments. I think what I wrote to her will cover your comment as well. If not, let me know. Keith

  3. in today’s society, especially in the west, the mind is elevated to god-like status in the profound worship of the idolatry that has become education. It is not that the mind needs to discarded, but, as you say, defragmented so that the mind and the heart function as to their original design. Sadly, this will not be completed until the time we are with our Lord, and away from this earthly realm, but the journey continues with God, and there is hope, as He draws us to Himself day by day. The old hymn “I Surrender All” sets the stage well.

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